Saturday, August 11, 2007

growing without eating

Happy to report that Lars this week weighed in at 37 pounds, and is 3 feet 5 inches tall/long. A milestone because he was 35 pounds before he got ill last December, and went down to 30 during his medical crisis. Finally regained that weight and added two.

The odd part is that for several months he's been on a 97% food strike. The guy who used to eat 8 oz. of yogurt, 1/2 cup of cheerios, 2 scrambled eggs with cheese, and drink 7 oz. of water daily before 9 a.m. has now been known to consume--over the course of an entire week--maybe 5 cheerios, 2 chips, 3 bites of hummus, and 1 sip of water. Every once in a while we have a breakthrough meal when he eats 30 pizza goldfish or takes 10 bites of applesauce, but they're rare & if he's not in a familiar chair in a familiar, quiet environment, forget it.

Doing well with the pediasure, water, meds, and venting via g-tube, though, and he seems to have passed the constantly gagging phase. Liquid food runs in through an electronic pump (I'll post a picture soon) that you can set for exact rate & dose. Lives in a little backpack that we carry when he's hooked up, or sits on the bed overnight. Of course there's a catch-22 with g-tube feeds & eating: the more he's tube fed, the less hungry he feels, the less he eats, the more he's tube fed... But we've tried not feeding from 5 a.m. until 2:00 p.m. to see if he'll eat & it didn't work.

I had an interesting conversation with Diedre, a speech path from Perkins lower school, who was the first person able to confirm to me that she has seen kids who were eaters totally lose interest in food when they went on high doses of neurontin. Since this is the drug that has controlled Lars' pain and saved all our lives, we'll take the trade-off for lack of interest in food. Maybe it will come back eventually. Current plan is to feed more on a schedule that resembles how people actually eat. He takes two reflux meds at four different times during the day to try to get the reflux & gagging under control.

On August 24th he'll have the procedure to change his PEG to a Mic-key. PEG stands for percutaneous (through the skin) endoscopic gastrotomy (stomach tube). This is what Lars has had since 2/21--a tube (maybe a foot long) sticking out of his belly. Now that the track is healed, it'll be changed for a low-profile Mic-key button, like this one on a grown man. And in case you're jealous, you can purchase your own on amazon.com. Installation not included.

The mic-key will require us to hook up a tube in order to feed, vent, or give meds, but then the tube will come off when he's not being fed, which will be great.

We've recently had some problems with granulation tissue, and he had to have a painful procedure of burning it off with silver nitrate this week. We're trying different things to avoid that. Hopefully the mic-key will help, as it won't move as much. Lars tends to play with his tube & laugh when we tell him "no."

Lars & Joa today are at MAPVI's 2nd Annual Fishing Derby and Summer Picnic (MAPVI=Massachusetts Association for Parents of the Visually Impaired) for kids with visual impairments & their siblings. I'm hoping Larsy catches us some dinner 'cause I'm hungry even if he isn't.

Monday, August 06, 2007

camping

Fantastically wonderful time.... loons, newly hatched baby loons, kayaking, lake, sitting, talking, laughing, campfires, napping, roasting marshmallows, reading, cabin, trees, bats, fishing, swimming, floating, sand, hills, food, beer, birds, showering, walking, skinny dipping at moon rise, hiking, being quiet, hearing quiet, hearing songbirds, hearing loons... Perfect.

Lars was a thoroughly, delightfully, charmingly happy boy all week. Mellow, giggly, smiley, related, connected, outdoors boy.

Joa's grandmothers (Gramma & Mormor) gave him a kayak for his birthday & he loves it. He attended a week of kayak & canoe camp earlier this summer & knows his way around the boat. Sized just right for him; he went out every day. Birthday isn't for another 2 weeks, but kayak came early so he could bring it. We had the great fortune to borrow Carylbeth's kayak, too, & it was heavily paddled by various adults.




Joa & I went night fishin' (on the beach with flashlights & nets) for crawdads/crayfish with some folks we met camping last year (this is our 6th consecutive year at this Vermont state park). Photo of the catch, just before release.
Sweet waning gibbous moon under which we skinny dipped in the lake. Mmm. Blessed be. I've been harassing poor Andey for 3 years now about Lars not having a homemade stocking like Joa does...so guess who was knitting on vacation?
Lars spent hours & hours--entire afternoons--floating & swimming in the lake. Didn't always like the feeling of the sand (wet or dry), but other times could handle it. Also enjoyed boating. Such a water boy. Griffin takes a dive. His diving skills improved exponentially from one hour to the next.

Both the boys had a fantastic time. Griffin, John & Lisa were there the whole time with us; Andey, Cary, John, Zane & Tucker were there for part of the week. One night all of us were there.

Saturday, July 28, 2007

we're off like a herd of turtles

Off for a week of quasi-camping in Vermont.

So much to blog about already; no time now.

No internet or phone access for the week we're gone.

Will try to post next Sunday the 5th.

Have a great week, everyone.

Friday, July 13, 2007

the piano

Still blows me away. We have a piano. It was given to us. For free. It's here. Wow.



beloved steering wheel toy

Larsman loves his steering wheel toy. He got it from Lisa & John well over a year ago & it never seems to lose its appeal. He can activate the levers & buttons & steering wheel himself, and it shakes & moves & plays music--his favorite cause/effect toy by far. He sat on the floor (without lying down) for over an hour today playing with it.




Isn't it cute how I can take my glasses off? Mama says: not so cute.

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Joafest

Joa dyed his hair for the fourth of July...

Wednesday, July 04, 2007

Captains Kynvi

Guess who got to drive the Duck Boat on the Charles River yesterday???????????????


Gramma treated us all (Lars, Joa, Mommy, Mama, Granpa Teri, Cousin Jean, & second cousins Michael & Thomas) to a Duck Boat Tour. What incredible fun it was. We had the best driver, namely Colonel Duck Tape. He was hysterical. All four of the kids got to drive the boat when it was in the river.

For the 15 minutes after he drove, I talked to Lars about how he had driven the boat & he totally seemed to get it. Very excited, big smiles. Big boy. Simply fabulous. Splash.

Tis the summer of the boat for us. We have a family pass for the boats at Hopkinton State Park this summer, and have been going kayaking & canoeing a bunch, last weekend with Lisa, John & Griffin. What fun. Hey, if you want to come along, let me know. Always looking for an extra adult to join us.

Friday, June 29, 2007

yes, it is nice

Snippet from this morning’s conversation with an employee of a case management company that contracts with blue cross to provide extra nurse management services & information to their patients with seizure disorder and other diagnoses [insert thick…maybe Alabama…accent for “B”]:

B: “Now, is he in a group home? Or something like that? Or to what does he owe the privilege of having two moms?”

A: “Well, we’re lesbians. One of us birthed him.”

[slight pause]

B: “Oh. That’s nice.”

great week except for the heat

Okay, acceptable temperature outside again. Mama & Larsy do NOT do well with heat. Terrible terrible. We melt. We whine. We cry. We complain bitterly. We are miserable & do a pretty good job of making people around us miserable, too.

In the middle of this & other dramas, I got the earthshakingly bright idea to stop taking the last of my post-hysterectomy estrogen. Because I really enjoy feeling homicidal & wiped out & powering major hot flashes in the middle of this outdoor earthly hot flash?? No, because money is tight & I didn't want to pay the $20 a month. Oy weh. Needless to say, the night before last I said to heck with that & drove to CVS. Waiting for it to kick in. TIck. Tick.

In other news, this morning Andey & I sang on Lars' "news from home" BIGmack switch:
Larsy you can drive my car
Yes I'm gonna be a star
Larsy you can drive my car
And baby I love you
Beep beep'm beep beep yeah

It travels back & forth to school with news from his day. He pushes the switch to activate the recording. He loves it.

Boys & I tried to go to a free concert yesterday afternoon. Got all dressed up & drove to Boston, directions in hand, but couldn't find it. So disappointing. Drove home. Lars & Andey went to Holliston after dinner to look at the piano. Wow! Possible some volunteers from Outdoor Explorations, the fabulous group we went camping with, are going to try to move the piano for us in their van. Amazing.

Gramma (Andey's mom) & Grandpa Terri (Andey's step father) are coming on Monday. Yeah! We're all excited.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

follow-up

Back on Lars' 3rd birthday (3/8), we attended a fundraising concert for the Berklee music therapy student trip to Africa. Check out their blog of their trip, which includes video. Stunning! (For the chronological experience, go to May & read from the bottom up.)